“Life is not fair.”
Have you heard this from your children before? This statement is something I would hear often with young children. I even have caught myself saying this as well. Honestly, life does throw you curve balls and at times it seems totally unfair. You may work hard at a job everyday, then not get selected for a promotion you know you deserve. Or you may try to always be kind and make good decisions but it seems that things don’t ever go your way. It does not matter whether you are young or old, you will have these feelings at some point in your life.
I can remember as a child that I had a fear of not being picked on the kickball team at recess. I wanted to be the one picked in the beginning and definitely not at the end. That would have destroyed me. So, I made sure that would not happened. Anytime we had races on the playground, I can assure you I was there ready to beat everyone. It didn’t matter if I was up against a girl or a boy–I was out to prove something. Looking back now I realize I was trying too hard. I just needed to be me and be proud of who I was. Not until later in life did I truly get this. At the age of 47, I am proud of myself and my accomplishments. I realized that I don’t have to prove myself and be anything different than me. I like me!
I have also realized that life had its seasons. Just like there are four seasons, with warm sunny summer and cold and dreary winter, life can also reflect these good and bad seasons. Looking back at my life, I can see where my “winter seasons” lasted far too long. I was working hard and did all I could do make my mark at work and it just seemed nothing would happen for me. I would look around at others and know that I had put in the time and effort much more than they had, but they would be recognized and pushed forward. I am sure you have felt the same way. I began to understand that life is full of tests and trials. It is all about how I handled them that advanced me forward. If I wanted to move forward I had to go through hard times. If I accepted where I was and kept pushing on through, the hard times I would come to the end.
There were times when things would come my way and I would not handle them well. I would find myself going through the same situations and struggles constantly. That was because I was not dealing with them in the right way. Then finally, a breakthrough would come and I would be in another season. For me, a light bulb came on in my head and I clearly understood a task at work. I can not tell you the feeling I had when I thought to myself, “I got it–I finally understand how this works!”
If you find yourself in a situation that just does not seem fair, push through and go to the end. Looking back, I can see that I needed to go through some things to be able to handle what I have today. My job requires a high level of experience and wisdom. I needed to go through things to experience the pain of it to handle what I have today.
Just remember to never stop in the middle of your season. Take a look at your life and figure out where you are then decide what you are going to do about it. You can only stay in a season for so long and then you must keep moving. Life is all about learning and experience situations and conflicts. Make today your day to have that light bulb moment so that you move into a new season of life.